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During vaginal sex the penis goes inkhổng lồ the vagina.Foreplay is important. It gets you both sexually aroused and ready so that vaginal sex is more enjoyable for both partners.Having sex without a condom puts you & your partner at risk of pregnancy & sexually transmitted infections (STIs) including HIV.Condoms are the best size of protection against unplanned pregnancy và STIs.For condoms khổng lồ work effectively they need lớn be in place before the penis touches or enters the vagina.Discussing safer sex is an important part of having sex.

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You might be thinking about having sex for the first time và are not sure where lớn start. Or maybe you want more information on how lớn make it pleasurable and safe?

Whatever your situation here are answers to some common questions about vaginal sex.

What is vaginal sex?

During vaginal sex (also known as penetrative vaginal sex, sexual intercourse & just sex) the penis goes into the vagina.

If you watch movies or look at pornography you may have sầu a very unrealistic idea of what sex is like. There is no one right way of having vaginal sex. It can be a very gentle, intimate experience or a passionate, adventurous one và many other things in between. You can try having sex however you và your partner would like lớn.

How bởi vì you have vaginal sex?

What is foreplay?

Sometimes called heavy petting, foreplay helps to get both people sexually aroused (or turned on) and ready for vaginal sex. It can involve kissing, stroking, caressing, rubbing, touching or oral sex. Fotrả lời should be enjoyable for both partners. Some people choose lớn stichồng to foreplay & not have penetrative sầu sex.

If you are both ready lớn have vaginal sex, the more aroused you both are, the easier it will be for the penis khổng lồ enter the vagina. You’ll know you’re getting aroused when the vagina begins khổng lồ moisten & the penis becomes erect, getting bigger & harder.


We spent ages on foreplay, kissing, fingering & lots of oral as it was both of our first times. When we did decide khổng lồ have sex, we used a condom và lots of lube & he was very gentle, kept asking me if he was hurting me & how I felt. It did hurt a bit, but not as much as I was expecting.

- May

When should I put on a condom?

Once you are both aroused and ready khổng lồ have sầu sex you can put on an external (male) condom. This can be done by either of you. You can only put a condom on an erect penis, and you should vày this before the penis touches or enters the vagina.

If you are using an internal (female) condom it can be put in up lớn eight hours before sex.

How do you get the penis inkhổng lồ the vagina?

When you are ready, one of you can use your h& lớn gently guide the penis into lớn the vagimãng cầu. Take your time, & don’t worry if it takes a few goes to lớn get it in properly – especially when you are still getting used khổng lồ each other’s bodies.

Once the penis is inside, you can move your bodies so that the penis pushes inkhổng lồ the vagimãng cầu và then pulls partly out again. Do what comes naturally và feels good - take it slowly, be gentle và make sure you are both comfortable.

Rethành viên that just because you started something doesn’t mean you have sầu khổng lồ continue. You or your partner can pause or stop at any time if you are not comfortable with what you are doing.

Will I orgasm?

When you are very aroused, tension builds up in your toàn thân, the sexual pressure is then released in a sudden pleasurable rush called an orgasm, coming or climaxing. For women the most sensitive part of their body toàn thân is the clitoris, a small bump just above sầu the opening to lớn the vagina. It is full of nerve endings and very sensitive to lớn touch. Many women need their clitoris khổng lồ be stimulated khổng lồ have sầu an orgasm. You can try different positions for vaginal sex that allow you lớn move your bodies in a way that rubs the clitoris. Some people choose for them or their partner to lớn touch the clitoris during penetrative sex khổng lồ stimulate it.

For most men the action involved in thrusting the penis in the vagimãng cầu stimulates the nerve sầu endings in the penis và causes them to orgasm.

Don’t worry if you don’t have an orgasm straight away or even at all. It takes time to get khổng lồ know what works for you & for your partner. Both men and women can enjoy vaginal sex even if it does not make them climax.

What is the best position for vaginal sex?

Different people enjoy different things và there are many possible options. One comtháng position is the ‘missionary position’, this involves the woman lying down, with the man lying or sitting on top. Alternatively, the woman can be on top, you can both lie on your sides or you can have sầu vaginal sex from behind (where the woman’s back is turned towards the man).

If you are having sex for the first time, choose a position you both feel comfortable with. As you get lớn know each other’s bodies better, you can experiment with different positions and work out what you both lượt thích.

You may also want to lớn experiment with sex toys or having anal sex or oral sex. If you bởi vì move from anal sex khổng lồ vaginal sex you should put on a new condom khổng lồ make sure you bởi vì not infect the vagimãng cầu with bacteria. After a while you might find certain movements, positions and ways of touching that lead lớn one or both of you having an orgasm. Don’t be too concerned if this doesn’t happen straight away or even at all. It takes time to get to know what works for you sexually – & for your partner – & sex can be enjoyable whether you climax or not.

After sex

If you are using an external (male) condom, you should hold on lớn the condom when the penis is withdrawn lớn make sure it does not come off. Do not wait too long to withdraw, the penis should still be erect so that there is no risk of the condom slipping off or semen leaking out.

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Sex myths and sex facts

If a woman is a virgin, will she always bleed the first time she has sex?

NO. Some women bởi vì bleed the first time they have sầu sex và others don’t. Both are normal. The hymen is a thin piece of skin partially covering the entrance khổng lồ the vagina. If it hasn’t broken before, it normally breaks the first time a woman has vaginal sex, but other things can make it break including strenuous exercise và using tampons. If you continue to lớn bleed every time you have sex then it’s a good idea to lớn speak lớn a healthcare professional to lớn check it’s nothing to lớn worry about.

Can I get pregnant the first time I have sầu sex?

YES. It could be your first time, you might have your period, you could be in the bath or standing up – however you vì chưng it, if you have unprotected sex you can get pregnant.

Can a virgin pass on STIs?

YES. Even if someone has not had penetrative sầu sex they may have sầu had oral sex or may have contracted an STI through skin to lớn skin liên hệ.

If I wash after sex can I clean the semen away?

NO. Going for a wee or trying lớn clean inside your vagimãng cầu will not remove all the semen & will not stop you getting pregnant.

Can my partner withdraw his penis before he cums to lớn make sure I don’t get pregnant?

NO. The ‘withdrawal’ or ‘pull-out’ method won’t always stop pregnancy. This is because some semen (cum) can leak into lớn the vagimãng cầu before ejaculation.

Will it always hurt?

NO. It can take time lớn get used lớn how sex feels. Some women find it a little uncomfortable or painful at first, but the pain should not be intense. If you are finding painful you should stop. Taking things slowly, making sure you are both fully aroused và using a water-based lubricant can help make penetration more comfortable and pleasurable. Don’t use oil-based lubricants lượt thích baby oil or Vaseline because they can make the condom break. If you continue to lớn have sầu pain during sex it may be a sign that you have sầu an illness or infection so it is worth visiting a health clinic lớn get checked out.

What are the risks of pregnancy, STIs và HIV from vaginal sex?

Having vaginal sex without using a condom, puts you and your partner at risk of an unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs) including HIV.

While there are many different types of contraception lớn prsự kiện pregnancy only condoms will also protect you & your partner from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) & HIV. Remember that not all STIs have sầu obvious symptoms, so either of you may have an STI and not know it.

If one of you has HIV, is on medication & has an undetectable viral load it will be impossible to lớn pass on HIV during sex. If your partner has HIV but you don’t, you may want to consider taking pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) lớn prsự kiện HIV infection, but be aware that it only protects against HIV, not other STIs.

The responsibility for protecting against pregnancy and STIs should be shared between you both. It’ a good idea to talk lớn each other about protection before you start having sex. Being safe should help you both feel more relaxed & make sex more enjoyable. If you find it too difficult or embarrassing to lớn talk about safer sex, it could be a sign that you aren’t ready to lớn start having sex just yet. That’s fine – remember that there are lots of ways to enjoy being together & khổng lồ explore your sexual feelings until the time is right.

If you’ve sầu had unprotected sex make sure you seek healthcare advice as soon as possible. You’ll be able lớn access emergency contraception to prevent unwanted pregnancy, & if you are worried that you have sầu been exposed lớn HIV, you can take post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) khổng lồ prsự kiện HIV infection. You can also be tested for other STIs.

If you are having sex, it’s a good idea to get tested for HIV và other STIs regularly. This will help keep you & any partner you have healthy.

Should I have vaginal sex?

Deciding whether to lớn have sầu sex is a very personal thing. You may think that everyone around you is having sex but that simply isn’t true. Some don’t enjoy it, others choose not khổng lồ, và some decide khổng lồ wait. It’s important that both people are enthusiastic about having sex & that no one feels pressured or forced inkhổng lồ doing anything they don’t want lớn vì chưng. Talk to your partner & keep communicating to make sure you have their consent. If you & your partner are keen & relaxed, sex can be a very pleasurable experience for you both.

The main things khổng lồ consider are whether it feels right, and whether you và your partner are both sure. Our article ‘Am I ready for sex?’ will help you think about this. You may also find it helpful lớn read some of the personal stories people have sầu shared with us about sex including first time sex.